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Bereavement

FInd out more about bereavement and how loss can affect you emotionally, physically, and behaviourally – things like shock, denial, anger, sleep trouble and guilt. We’ve also got some tips for coping.

Bereavement means ‘to be deprived by death’ and the bereaved can be deprived in many ways, depending on the circumstances of the death and the relationship with the deceased. They may feel deprived of hope, the future, peace of mind, financial security or the chance to say goodbye or to put things right. Death represents a particular loss and the grieving process comes from this.

The five stages of grief

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, the author of On Death and Dying, sets out the Five Stages of Grief as follows:


It is important to emphasise that these stages are only part of the framework of learning to live with bereavement. They are tools that may be helpful in framing and identifying some of the emotions but they are not defined, definite stages. Not everyone goes through all five stages, nor is the progression through them always linear – people can move from Stage One to Four and back through Stage Two, for example. Each individual grieves in their way.

It can be helpful to set out some of the emotions, physical symptoms and behaviours associated with grief. We need to also bear in mind that there can also be anticipatory grief where a death is expected, for example a person with a terminal illness or advanced old age.

Emotions associated with grief

Physical symptoms associated with grief

The mind and body are inextricably linked, and bereavement can have physical effects too:

The last symptom is very common, where the bereaved person feels that the deceased is present, may hear their voice, laughter or smell their scent or imagine that they see them in a crowd.  Our senses do play tricks on us, particularly in traumatic situations such as bereavement.

Behaviours associated with grief

Bereavement can have an impact on our day-to-day behaviour. You may experience:

Many of these will pass with time. If any become chronic or start affecting the health of the bereaved person, medical help is advised.

How to help yourself

Life post bereavement

Life does go on. Grief is not something you “get over”, rather it becomes part of you that will become integrated into who you are. To grieve indicates that you cared about the deceased, and it is an entirely natural reaction.

There will always be memories and anniversaries, but eventually you will adapt to a changed life with different relationships and perspectives. If you feel you cannot move on, please seek help as acute, unaddressed grief can be detrimental to both mental and physical health.

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